The reality and brutality of war can leave adults feeling helpless. It is often more so for children who are often aware of their limited ability to effect change. So how are teachers to answer questions about the war, assuage fears and help children gain some sense of making a difference for those who are suffering? Stay Calm. Children are sponges of adult emotions, especially when those adults are their caretakers. If parents and teachers maintain an attitude of calm confidence, children will feel more safe and secure in any situation. Listen for their concerns. Acknowledging their feelings, whether they be sadness, fear, or anger, is an important step in letting children know they are being heard. It is a step toward giving them the assurance they are looking for. Be mindful of difference. Within a classroom there are children of every emotional makeup. Some may be anxious, sensitive or worriers. Others may be unconcerned, and some may still be unaware of the war. It is important to reply to questions in a way that will not increase children’s anxiety or induce fear in those who are unfamiliar with what’s happening. Limit details. Be mindful of the students’ ages. Do not overexplain to young children or allow children to share graphic details of the war they have seen or heard. Direct any discussion towards the many people, both in and out of the Ukraine, who are working towards helping others and bringing peace. Create ways to help. Children love to help. Older children can brainstorm projects, fund raisers or write letters to local decision makers. All children can create art expressing their concern for Ukrainians, or their desire for peace in the world. Some could be sent to local Ukrainian churches, as parishioners worry about their families and homeland. Art is also an excellent therapy for anxious children. Make prayer a ritual. Rituals and routines are essential for children during challenging times, both at home and in the classroom, offering them some sense of control over their lives. Prayer is also a way for children to feel they are making a difference in a way that strengthens their faith. Children may wonder why their prayers for peace are not being answered, so it’s important to help them understand that prayer also gives people courage, strength and a heart to help others, often at great sacrifice to themselves. Children may appreciate writing their own prayers to share with the class or their families. Prayer resources from RCL Benziger include Blest are We Faith in Action, Supplements, Prayers for Scripture Covers, as well as Catholic Prayers and Practices for Young Disciples (English) and Catholic Prayers and Practices which includes the Order of the Mass.
Mary Regina Morrell, mother of six and grandmother to nine, is a Catholic journalist, author, and syndicated columnist who has served the dioceses of Metuchen and Trenton, New Jersey, and RENEW International in the areas of catechesis and communication.